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When Depressed Partners Blame and Leave

by John Folk-Williams 3 Comments

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Part of running Storied Mind is responding to a steady stream of emails and comments from readers, and most of them concern the collision of depression and close relationships. They are mostly from people who have watched their depressed partners turn into angry strangers who leave. It’s a theme I’ve written about many times, but […]

Filed Under: Recovery Tagged With: Anger, awareness, blame, partner

The Delusions of Depression

by John Folk-Williams 23 Comments

I’ve had several moments in recovery when I realized that things I assumed to be true were really delusions of depression. Some were long-held beliefs about myself, others were briefly held convictions that were too far from reality to maintain for long. Psychiatrists probably wouldn’t call these delusions of the sort linked to psychosis, but […]

Filed Under: Depression Symptoms, Healing Tagged With: belief, blame, delusion, panic, self

Does the Partner or Depression Cause the Breakup?

by John Folk-Williams 631 Comments

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I’ve often described the way depression can break up close relationships, but does the illness explain everything? How responsible are depressed partners for the human cost that others pay because of what they do when they’re ill? One reader told me I’d confused her about this. First, I talked about depression taking over someone, as […]

Filed Under: Depressed Partners Tagged With: Anger, blame, marriage, partner, responsibility

11 Relationship Traps of Depression

by John Folk-Williams 661 Comments

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Depression sets relationship traps for both partners. Everything can change quickly between two people, and it’s crucial to be able to spot these changes as soon as possible. Here are 11 signs of the illness that seem perfectly designed to undo the bonds of closeness. Humor, talking and doing things together, sharing special moments – […]

Filed Under: Relationship Tagged With: blame, intimacy, partner

How Can You Communicate After Your Depressed Partner Leaves?

by John Folk-Williams 1,103 Comments

It’s the worst scenario of life with depressed partners. They leave, shutting out a lot of love and support because of the illness. If you’ve been abandoned in this way, the first thing you’re likely to try is to get in touch. You need to say you still care and want to help in any […]

Filed Under: Depressed Partners Tagged With: blame, depression, partner, support

Why Depressed Men Leave – 3

by John Folk-Williams 130 Comments

I’ve written a lot about the form of depression in which men look outside themselves to find the cause for an inner pain that simply can’t be faced. They may feel anger, rage, a longing to act out fantasies, or a compulsion to blame and abuse those closest to them. That side of depression is […]

Filed Under: Depressed Partners, Isolation, Men and Depression, Reconnecting Tagged With: blame, emotion, emotional abuse, family, leaving, withdrawal, work

Why Depressed Men Leave – 1

by John Folk-Williams 388 Comments

About a year ago, I wrote a series of posts about my experience with the fantasies of a better life that often prompt depressed men to leave their families. You can find the first of those stories here, here and here. Those brief pieces tell only a small part of a long and troubling story. […]

Filed Under: Depressed Partners, Men and Depression, Reconnecting, Self-Esteem Tagged With: Anger, blame, family, grief, leaving, love, men, partner

Forgiveness & Recovery from Depression

by John Folk-Williams 17 Comments

Recently, Melinda wrote a post about the role of forgiveness in her recovery and the difficulty she has had in forgiving her unrepentant father for abusing her in childhood. Reading this made me aware that I wasn’t very clear in my own mind about the meaning of forgiveness. It is always mentioned as an obligatory […]

Filed Under: Children and Depression, Self-Help, Spirituality Tagged With: blame, change, childhood, depression, forgiveness, soul, victim, violence

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