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Doubt is Depression’s Last Stand

by John Folk-Williams 18 Comments

It was one thing to get depression out of my life. It was another to get it out of my memory. Doubt about recovery from depression could linger on and keep playing tricks with the past. Vivid memories of old words and actions while depressed continued to torture and twist through me. They became my […]

Filed Under: Anxiety, Self-Esteem Tagged With: belief, change, depression, fantasy, feelings, hope, life, memory

Fantasies of a Perfect Future and Emotional Abuse

by John Folk-Williams 8 Comments

I have a post on emotional abuse at Health Central in which I compared the behavior of a depressed man who acts abusively with that of a true emotional abuser. It occurred to me after writing the post that fantasies of a perfect future are important for both. As I’ve written in the Longing to […]

Filed Under: Recovery Tagged With: emotional abuse, fantasy, identity, partner

Talking to Depression – 2

by John Folk-Williams 2 Comments

I’ve written an overview post in this series on Depression Central, and I hope you’ll have a look at that. Thanks. Talking to a depressed partner can be more than frustrating. It can feel hopeless when you’re faced with a slammed door shutting you out completely or a furious attack full of blame and rejection. […]

Filed Under: Depressed Partners, Men and Depression Tagged With: Anger, depression, emotion, emotional abuse, fantasy, feelings, hope, intimacy, marriage, men, pain, partner, support, wife

Men, Depression and Sexual Addiction

by John Folk-Williams 33 Comments

I had lunch with M one day to talk business, and I got on with him well. We were both excited about the projects we were working on, but soon got to more personal things. I told him about the depression I kept fighting and about treatment to keep it in check. He went into […]

Filed Under: Men and Depression Tagged With: family, fantasy, men, obsession, power, shame, wife

The Longing to be Close – 1

by John Folk-Williams 5 Comments

In reading over the many responses to The Longing to Leave series, I realize those stories only get at part of the picture. Like many in the midst of depression, I wanted to blame my marriage for what I was going through and fantasized about leaving. But at the core of that fantasy was an […]

Filed Under: Depressed Partners, Isolation Tagged With: depression, dream, fantasy, intimacy, marriage, partner, shame

The Longing to Leave – 3

by John Folk-Williams 45 Comments

Reading the comments that appeared at Beyond Blue about The Longing to Leave-2 has been a continuing inspiration. I realize how different everyone’s experience is about the impact of depression on marriage, and how desperately hard everyone works to reach what is for them the right answer about staying married or not. For some, the […]

Filed Under: Depressed Partners, Men and Depression Tagged With: depression, dream, fantasy, love, marriage, men, obsession

Real Depressed Men Don’t Cry

by John Folk-Williams 4 Comments

Not sure where the following came from, but it turned up on my cyber doorstep recently. I guess some men have trouble living up to their fantasies. Ok – everybody knows depressed people have these outbursts of grief and crying for no apparent reason. At least some people do. But certainly not me, a guy […]

Filed Under: Men and Depression Tagged With: fantasy, grief, men, work

The Longing to Leave – 2

by John Folk-Williams 78 Comments

The longing to leave one’s intimate partner brings out something that isn’t much discussed in descriptions of depression. It is the active face of the illness. We often focus on the passive symptoms, the inactivity, the isolation, sense of worthlessness, disruption of focused thought, lack of will to do anything. But paradoxically the inner loss […]

Filed Under: Depressed Partners, Men and Depression Tagged With: fantasy, intimacy, leaving, love, marriage, partner

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