Writing about depression can be an important self-healing technique, and you don’t have to have great ambitions about being a writer to benefit from it. As a form of therapy, keeping journals and diaries has been popular for years.
But there are pitfalls in this approach, and it’s important to know what they are and why they prevent writing from helping with recovery.
The psychologist James Pennebaker has come up with useful explanations about why this approach can work and how it can go wrong.
This post summarizes his ideas as background for going into step-by-step methods. We’ll look at some of those in the next posts in this series.
In Opening Up: The Healing Power of Expressing Emotions, he describes what he found about writing after initiating studies into the health effect of emotional inhibition. What makes the book especially helpful is his discussion of the do’s and don’t’s of writing for the purpose of healing.
Self-Harm from Holding Back
Pennebaker had long suspected that holding in powerful emotions connected to disturbing and traumatic events could have serious effects on physical and psychological health. Through survey research, he found that people who had been able to express their deepest feelings and talk through their experiences had far fewer health problems following the event than those who did not.
One of the reasons he identified went directly to my own experience. Holding back powerful feeling from physical expression takes a lot of hard work. The body reacts automatically to some emotions. The crying response, for example, is as unwilled as breathing, and forcing the body not to express itself in this way requires physical restraint and puts enormous pressure on both body and mind. As a long-term stressor, inhibition has been associated with numerous problems, such as asthma, migraine headaches, eating disorders and high blood pressure.
Restraining emotions can also damage thought processes. By avoiding expression, thinking tends to narrow to the worst aspects of painful experience, ignores a broader view and fails to integrate it into other dimensions of living. As I often found, that narrow thinking readily becomes obsessive, and the mind can’t break away from the events and emotions that are kept from others. It ruminates in ways that never solve a problem but only intensify its harmful psychological impact.
Talking Helps, So Does Writing
Pennebaker found that the value of expressing deep feelings stemmed first from the willingness to confront the disturbing emotions. By confrontation, he means actively thinking and talking about the experiences and acknowledging the feelings they’ve stirred. Putting those feelings into words makes it easier to understand what has happened and eventually assimilate it into one’s life.
But even with this willingness to confront their feelings, many can’t or won’t talk about what they’re going through. Perhaps the power of inhibition has become such a well-established habit over many years that they can’t break it by openly talking. Others believe talking about problems is a sign of weakness or even makes the suffering worse by giving into it and “wallowing.” This turned out to be a problem for Pennebaker himself.
When faced with his own emotional crisis of deep depression, Pennebaker – a psychologist working in a department full of other psychologists – refused to seek therapy. It would have been a sign of weakness, he thought, or perhaps a professional embarrassment. Whatever his reasons, he balked at following the advice he always gave to others.
Instead, he wrote about his experiences and his deepest feelings relating to all the major relationships and traumas he had been through. Every day for a week, he wrote and gradually felt freer. Not only did his depression begin to lift, but he also rediscovered a sense of purpose and meaning and reaffirmed the love he felt for his wife.
Why Writing Can Help
He identified reasons for beneficial effects such as he experienced in some basic human needs.
The Need for Completeness and Meaning: People need to explain things and reassure themselves that the world is a stable place. Writing to confront unexpressed feeling helps do that by providing a sense of direction and meaning. There is an emotional completeness achieved by the ability to express and explain. When the feelings and experiences begin to make sense, you go from being overwhelmed and helpless to being mentally and emotionally active.
The Power of Language: Related to the need for meaning is the role of language when linked to emotion. The words help to organize and simplify experience. When you have the ability to explain something in words, you feel more confident that you really understand it. Pennebaker found that when trauma victims wrote about their experiences for several days in a row, the writing became more concise and organized, more focused on the event itself. Until the writing experience, the trauma could not be put into words at all.
The Drive for Self-Expression: Abraham Maslow suggested that once basic human needs have been satisfied, people also show a powerful need to express themselves in language and action. Writing seems to be one form that satisfies that drive and prevents the harmful effects of blocking it.
What Can Go Wrong?
Pennebaker’s book is full of caveats about the use of writing to heal. It doesn’t work for everyone, and often it’s not even appropriate. Pennebaker identifies four types of writing that don’t work and can even make things worse.
Substitute for Action: Writing can be a way to avoid taking action. Doing anything is hard in the midst of depression, but writing can’t serve as a substitute for doing something you know you can and should try to do.
Intellectual Exercise: As often happened to me, you can write endlessly about rational causes of depression, speculating about the influence of family life or other issues but never really probing the deepest feelings of the present. It’s another form of avoidance that is unlikely to help with lasting improvement.
Uncensored Complaining: Writing is a great way to complain about troubles and relationships. You can easily give yourself permission to blame and vent but not to reflect on what you are feeling and doing.
Self-Absorption: Writing can also become an inventory of the self. You can record every detail about yourself, every pleasure or pain, every dream or disappointment, every nuance of feeling and reaction. But for the purpose of healing, it’s essential to get beyond that and reach an honest and reflective feedback that grows out of writing about powerful feelings and trying to see them in the full context of your life.
I keep coming back to the concept of confronting depression. That’s what transforms writing into a method of healing. The process starts with the willingness to confront and name the deepest feelings and then to search your experience and reactions for patterns, clues, helpful pointers. That can lead to remarkable results, but it takes a good method to get there. Julia Cameron and Louise DeSalvo have developed some of most effective, and next two posts review their methods.
Has writing been a part of your approach to healing? How does it help you deal with depression?
Writing helped me immensely. It began, I admit, with morbid self-absorption. But gradually, as I catalogued every memory and emotion, I developed insight into my own reasons for inhibiting emotion. It was a good outlet for pouring out pain, yes; but more than that, the insights I gained helped me see past the anger and hate to a deeper understanding of myself as an imperfect human being. And accept myself as such. My standards for myself were unattainably high. My wish to please everyone all the time could never be fulfilled. The stresses to which I had exposed my mind and body had taken their toll. I was suffering. But through writing, I could close the chapters of my past peacefully and mindfully, putting them in proper perspective. I don’t write as much as I did for a few years, because I have put those things to rest now. But I still jot down insights and useful ideas each day and read over them from time to time. It is amazing what you can accomplish through this simple technique. It’s not for everyone or every situation, but it sure worked for me.
John Folk-Williams says
Hi, Donna –
Thank you for these insights. I agree – it is amazing what writing can do, and it’s clearly helped you profoundly. There’s a wonderful sense of composure and peacefulness in what you’ve written here. You convey so well the restorative quality of writing that is so important to me. I think that’s due partly to the total absorption that I often feel when trying to get ideas into the right words. Writing helps me feel deeply rested and renewed in a way because I discover so much, making connections that I hadn’t thought of before. I guess it’s a way of finding out all the things i usually keep under wraps.
My best to you —