I’m pleased to announce that the first Storied Mind ebook is now available. Surviving Depression Together contains new versions of more than 20 posts on relationships published here over the past five years as well as completely new content and material previously published only in the newsletter. It has all been edited and organized into a smoothly flowing reading experience.
Here is an excerpt from the introduction:
“I’ve been married for over 40 years and spent most of that time in one phase or another of depression. My wife experienced much pain because of my behavior, and we came close to splitting up more than once. From reading dozens of stories online, including many sent to Storied Mind, I know that what we went through is not uncommon – though the outcome is often less happy than it has been for us.
The stories I read – mostly from women – tell of hurt, confusion, anger and desperation at the sudden transformation of their partners. They face strangers who flare up suddenly or withdraw in silence, who blame and threaten, who say they need to leave to find happiness. The stories of depressed partners sound a lot like mine. Little talk, lots of anger, emotional distance, dreams of escape – the list goes on. It varies with each person, but the result is the same. The relationship is threatened at its core.
If you’re going through this kind of agony, whether you’re the one suffering from depression or the partner facing the loss of the person you knew, I can say that it is possible to survive depression together. For us, it was by far the hardest and most demanding thing we had ever done, and there were many times when we were convinced there was no hope.
… This ebook describes what we went through, some of the methods that helped us deal with the illness and ideas about what to do if nothing works.
The theme is healing – of the depressed partner, of the partner trying to adapt to life changed by their loved one’s illness and of the relationship created between them. This is not a step-by-step manual but a record of personal struggles, of the hard work of getting well and, most important, of resilience and hope.”
If you should buy the book and find it helpful, I hope you’ll take a minute to spread the word online.
Let me know what you think and how I can improve the content and format for this series.